Monday, August 31, 2015
My child, my child.
Behold the One who loves you
Let go of your own ways,
Your own striving,
Your own pushing and pulling,
Your trying to be,
In the Way
In the Truth
In the Light
In the Sacred Heart.
Sunday, August 30, 2015
Saturday, August 29, 2015
But for a set of interesting characters, just doing good deeds for the joy of helping others is not exactly compelling novel material.
Can you tell I'm stuck trying to plot character motivations?
One of them can just be in it to help her friend. But the others? Are practically, if not entirely, strangers. What will each of them get out of helping someone on their quest?
Pondering, pondering, pondering...
Feel free to share any suggestions. Really, folks! :)
Thursday, August 27, 2015
Wednesday, August 26, 2015
So I try to surround myself with honest people. Their openness, their sincerity, their stark goodness are all a refreshing change from everything I know and am.
And it's easy to hurt them and cut ties when I have to move on. They never want me back and it's better when I go, so I don't destroy them.
I am a liar, a cheat, and a thief. I am the powerless son of a dark wizard who loathes me. But I know his secrets and I made him need me.
Characters talking in my head! Always exciting. :)
Tuesday, August 25, 2015
Monday, August 24, 2015
Black - C to N - Blank
Void - add De - Devoid
of substance or the substantial.
Beginnings without starts
No middles or ends --
Just non-sequitur fragments,
Threads of thought
Refusing to be grasped.
Writer's block. Or maybe more like harsh writers's judgement today. So, this instead of the characters that were creating lines in my brain. One of those days.
Saturday, August 22, 2015
The wife of the CEO of cheating website Ashley Madison has a quote from 2013 in an article in today's Seattle Times saying, "I would be devastated if [my husband] did it to me. But I would not blame a website. Ashley Madison is not creating cheaters. It is servicing a need that is there, that exists." The site and its awful nature have been all over the news lately due to a hacking scandal that has started raking public figures across the coals, most prominently Josh Duggar (who is not liked by anyone I know...). He certainly won't be the last either, I am sure. That extent of the situation was all I really knew; then I read this article today and just got mad.
Ok. I will give her the point that the website is not to blame (mostly). It is a tool for a decision and action that its users are making and they and their ideas and actions are what are at fault. However, the question that is left in my mind is HOW can anyone profit from enabling obviously unhealthy relationships to further corrode without any apparent sense of remorse or guilt? And how hypocritical is it to even be remotely involved in earning from offers of/occurrences of infidelity when that issue would "devastate" your marriage?!
What makes me more livid, though, is this twisted idea that cheating could save a marriage. Sure, its occurrence and discovery would obviously get some issues out into the air. But all it really comes down to is that cheating, no matter who does it or how or why, is just a harmful "solution" of avoiding any sort of real work at solving issues that can crop up in (what is supposed to be) a lifelong commitment to another person. There is so much that can be said and done before reaching that point and even when "that point" is reached, there is no way to justify infidelity as a "right" decision.
(I suppose if both partners felt that they needed to "cheat" and agreed to do it together, that could be, well, ... a thing.... but then it's not actually cheating...)
I am not married. But I will be someday. I am lucky to have examples of strong marriages all around me, in my parents, relatives, and friends. I also know people in my life whose marriages have ended. If that is what needs to happen for the betterment of all involved, I don't think that is an absolutely terrible thing. And for the people I know who have experienced this, it has ultimately resulted in a happier life for them. But it comes out of working towards betterment, before just giving up. And cheating is in NO way, EVER going to create something better out of a hard situation. The giving up of marital intimacy, a closeness that has been shared and agreed upon between two people, to another person can only result in broken trust, which maybe can be healed, though, again, with work.
There is not a perfect marriage. And temptation can rear its ugly head in unanticipated ways that can never be predicted on "the happiest day" of one's life. But the whole point of the marriage commitment is just that - commitment; committing to choosing that person you have promised yourself to over anything else: choosing them in good times and bad, and in those bad times, the hard times, choosing to work through and fight for them in the midst of all of the things the world throws at you.
Cheating can only ever be breaking that promise.
Friday, August 21, 2015
Thursday, August 20, 2015
Thursday morning I came across this article in my Facebook feed:
"This quick-thinking teen cleverly befriended a woman's kidnapper to save her"
and I'm so happy I did. I generally enjoy Upworthy posts, though I don't click into every one that passes by on my screen. Occasionally they seem to go in waves where they post sensationalist, click-bait titles, which turns me off from finding out more, even though I know their material is always uplifting. But I stopped and clicked for this one.
What an incredible young man. He sensed something was wrong in the situation he came across and he took action. I can't say that I would have done the same thing, or that most people would have done the same thing. Granted, he felt relatively safe enough to involve himself in the situation, which I probably would not have - and it is always important to maintain your own safety in order to be most effective in helping others - but my broader point is that he involved himself at all.
I finished the article remembering the little motto "If you see something, say something." How much does it take for us just to say something - a "How are you?" "Is everything okay?" It really, really doesn't take anything at all. And you never know the impact you will make.
Earlier this week, I was presented with my own opportunity where I saw and sensed something wrong and could have said something, and I didn't. I should have. Luckily (though also unfortunately, for it involved someone being injured), I was given the chance to respond to the situation again just a few minutes later. But if I had said something the first time, when I sensed that something was wrong, perhaps things could have gotten taken care of that much sooner.
For the record, everything turned out okay. But in the first moments, my sense of something being wrong triggered two reactions in me. The first one was to ask if everything was ok. The second, however, was concern for my well-being in a possibly odd situation, and I used that as an excuse to justify my way out of it. "Oh well I've got to go into work." "I'm by myself and this is weird." ... and so on. This Thursday article, though, inspires me to perhaps follow up with that first instinct a little bit more often because, in most cases, it will be just fine to simply ask if everything is ok.
Wednesday, August 19, 2015
What is so scary about the dark? Not knowing what's there? The lurking things that we make up in our heads? Both, I'd say. But we have to head into the dark sometimes, especially when we want to get all the way back home. And while the scary things are certainly intimidating to imagine, more often than not they are just that - imaginary. For those times when they are real, well, then it's smart to be navigating with those high beams, staying alert to keep to the path towards where you want to go.
Tuesday, August 18, 2015
Monday, August 17, 2015
Sunday, August 16, 2015
Saturday, August 15, 2015
Thursday, August 13, 2015
Sunday, August 9, 2015
Saturday, August 8, 2015
Friday, August 7, 2015
Thursday, August 6, 2015
Honestly, fervently, selflessly.
Love this world as you love your work:
Passionately, with dedication, with perseverance.
Love this world as you are loved:
Without judgement, wholly, and infinitely.
Wednesday, August 5, 2015
"Tomorrow is a fresh, new day with no mistakes in it." - Anne of Green Gables
Not that today had a lot of mistakes or anything... It was really quite fine. Just fine. But I am reminded that it is these "just fine" days that help the most wonderful ones truly stand out. :)
The other thing, of course, is that each day is what you make of it. It is the attitudes we ultimately choose to react with that make or break any given situation. And, while today I did just fine, tomorrow is a fresh start in choosing joy as my approach to life.
So here's to tomorrow.
Tuesday, August 4, 2015
Suspended in the black blanket of night,
For in those distant lights
I feel the Infinity that is waiting for us.
I stood still in the temperate evening
Feeling my heart beat in time
With the spinning of the earth
Beneath the darkened Heaven.
(In this moment, I felt Forever.)
We are two pinpricks
In this vast and immeasurable existence,
Shining separately and now burning brighter,
Having been brought together.
But we are not alone.
We are surrounded by lights,
Laid in a grand scheme of unending sky,
Answering hopes with our infinitesimal Infinity.
Sunday, August 2, 2015
Saturday, August 1, 2015
I shall be an adult...
I shall brush my teeth.
I shall wash my face.
I shall slip on pajamas.
I will put away my laundry.
I will pick up my shoes.
I will hang up my skirt.
I will be an adult...